How to “date” Japanese Girls

There are countless videos on YouTube about dating Japanese women, but most are misleading at best. These videos will give you false-hope and false information. You need a deeper understanding of Japanese culture to have dating success. I’m not an authority on dating Japanese women, but I do have firsthand and secondhand experience with Japanese women. The video will be my opinions on what you should never do on a date, and what to try instead.

The numbers don’t lie. The population of Japan is dropping quickly. These people are not having a lot of sex… Furthermore, look at the biggest gaijin YouTubers in Japan. These guys are rich, famous, and speak Japanese, but most of them are dating gaijin women… Do not underestimate the difficulty of dating in Japan.

Girlfriend Advice

I asked my friends for Japanese “dating advice.” Watch the video to see what they think. Here is what I think:

  • “COUNTRY GIRLS” want to get married young (before 22 years old) and have a family as soon as possible. They are looking for young guys, under 25 years old, that also want to start a family. They want a man with a good job, and a U.S. military pension is a bonus.

  • “CITY GIRLS” have no time for a real boyfriend (hookups only) and will never get married. A “city girl” is working two jobs, working 6 days a week, going to college, and always dressed in perfect Japanese style. If you’re on a date with a “city girl” (IMPORTANT) There will be no second date. She is too busy for a second date. You should be bold on that first date, and be ready to take her home, or to a love-hotel that night.

  • If you want a girlfriend: You should focus on dating non-Japanese women (Thai, Vietnamese, Korean, Filipina, etc) in Japan. They are usually kind and feminine, and most Japanese guys aren’t interested in dating them. Most of these girls speak some English, and want a good boyfriend.

  • If you want hookups: You need to speak Japanese, dress well, be in shape, have great hair, have game, and don’t look poor. All women want confident guys, and Japanese women are no different. Hopefully you love to drink, because Japanese people need alcohol to let their guard down. You might get a job at a popular IZAKAYA, and hookup with the female customers. You might also have better luck with women over 30.

  • If you wan a wife: You should probably to be young (18 to 25 years old) and NOT on a student visa. A military-visa or work-visa will imply you’re more interested in living in Japan long term. Japanese women “country girls” get married young, and they’re looking for a young man that knows some Japanese, doesn’t look homeless, and has a bright financial future.

  • Older guys looking for young women: If you’re over 40, and looking for international romance, Japan is not the country for you. You never see young Japanese women dating a much older men. Sorry, brother. Go to Southeast Asia.

  • Who’s buying dinner?: If the girl is young the man should pay for the first date. Fortunately, Japan is more affordable than the USA, and a lunch date should only run you $20. The masculine / feminine gender rolls are still appreciated in Japan, so be a man, and pay for the first date. However! This is not the case when “dating” older Japanese women. If you have game, are handsome, and speak some Japanese, these older women will treat you like a king. They might buy presents, dinner, or take you on vacations.

Tinder in Japan

Dating apps in Japan can be a huge waste of time. It seems most Japanese girls have them, but don’t use them. If you look closely, most of the profiles are abandoned or scams. Watch this video, before you invest thousands of hours on these apps. There are better ways to meet Japanese women…

Boyfriend Advice

I interviewed a few (female) foreigners living in Japan, and none of them had a Japanese boyfriend. Watch the video to find out why it’s so difficult to date Japanese men, and what advice these women have. Good luck…